LIBERATION FROM GUILT
Guilt is caused by belief in free choice. Guilt is the perception you have that
you are a bad person and should be made to pay for the badness in you. Guilt is
useless because the past is over and this moment is another moment. It is a new
moment from which change is possible. Guilt looks back to the past when what you
should be feeling is optimism that you will do something to correct the evil you
have done as far as you can and that you have learned from your mistake. Guilt
is the feeling that you want to suffer for what you did wrong and it is one
fulfilment of that desire for it is painful. It is a disorder because it is
wanting to be happy and believing that you should be happy that can get you
started improving and clear up the mess. It does not matter how common something
is, that does not make it normal. Only reason can say for sure what is normal.
Do away with the concept of deserving punishment – the fact that you never work
to earn self-esteem but just break down the internal barriers that prevent it
being unleashed in you proves that the concept of deserving is bad news. No
matter what you have done in the past the only thing you deserve is the power to
live a good life and be happy. Redemption is better than punishment. If you
believe you should be punished then you are in trouble. All this is true even if
you do believe in free will and that punishment is what we deserve because the
deserving bad is blanked out by the deserving good. You deserve all good and the
reason you deserve it is because of what you are and not because of what actions
you perform. What you are is a conscious intelligent being who can be happy or
unhappy and that automatically tells you that you should be happy. Babies cannot
do good or evil but they “deserve” to be happy because they are babies.
The effective way to deal with guilt when it appears is to refute its
accusations against you and its will to punish you by doing as much good as you
can and as soon as possible. Prove it wrong.