The Catholic Church treats many as being of second class just because of the kind of marriage they have
A Catechism of Christian Doctrine (CTS, London, 1978) used to say that marriages
between Catholics and other religions were dangerous and only tolerated for
grave reasons (Question 310). The present version still says that the Church
does not encourage mixed marriages and has dropped the insulting bit. Sometimes,
Catholics will say that they are also opposed to mixed marriages because the
partners being of two different religions makes things difficult. That is a
denial that marriage is a sacrament – a means of grace and that marriage is
difficult anyway which is why it needs to be a sacrament.
Catholics will believe that if the partner who is not a Catholic will not
convert it is because he is not examining the Catholic faith properly nor is he
allowing God to work in him so he is a mortal sinner. The Church claims to be
the truth just as Christ was the truth and anybody then who doesn't see the
truth is not concerned enough about it and so is a sinner. The Church expresses
its view by describing people who are not under the papal regime as
non-Catholics. You don't speak of the world apart from Buddhist as non-Buddhist
unless you think that everybody should be Buddhist but is not. And so the Church
speaks of non-Catholics meaning that anybody who is not a Catholic is defective
or falling short in some way.
Roman Catholicism says it cannot let a person who is suspected of mortal sin
marry in that state for it defiles the sacrament. Also, when you reject God you
reject all goodness – and the love of God and of neighbour go together in
religion - and so you cannot really intend to do the good thing of forming a
union of holiness or love with your partner. The marriages of sinners are
invalid. This shows that probably all marriages can be annulled.
A consistent religion cannot allow mixed marriages at all for the partner of a
different religion who makes no attempt to convert you is betraying and sinning
against her or his own belief or religion.
If the unbelieving partner refuses to try and convert his Roman Catholic wife or
gives us, he is refusing to let her see what he believes to be the truth. This
would be mortal sin and not love and love is supposed to be the basis of
marriage. Mixed marriages cannot be countenanced by the true Catholic under any
circumstances.
Christian marriage is made for the sake of God. God binds the pair together. It
is not binding at all if God does not do this. The law cannot really marry you.
God can’t bind in sinful marriage.
Rome lets good Catholics marry heretical Catholics which is not fair when it
discourages marriage with Protestants.
Rome allows divorce if you are baptised and your husband or wife is not. Though
the marriage was real, the Church can dissolve it and allow you to marry again.
This rule will wreak havoc in the future for there will be more unbaptised
people marrying Catholics than there are currently.
If mixed marriages are bad then it is obviously a sin to be good friends with
anybody who does not belong to your religion. It is taking the risk of having
your faith corrupted and when faith is of supreme importance in religion it is
wrong to take a step closer to parting with it. Moreover, it would be equally
bad to associate with anybody who claims to be a member of your religion who
denies something it teaches or who refuses to obey it as far as possible. It is
easier to commit sin when you are used to sinners and like them. Your friends
are supposed to lead you to higher spiritual union with God in faith and service
so they have to be from your own religion and determined to stay in and maintain
that religion.
Such association reduces the religionist’s hatred for what he considers to be
their errors and makes it harder for him or her to want to convert them. It
contradicts the fact that if God exists and is love then he comes first.
If you should not marry a person who doesn't have the same faith as you or who
doesn't take it seriously if they do, then how can it be wrong if you refuse to
employ them for that reason? Marrying is a bigger thing than hiring.
A religion worthy of the name or sincere will make members marry only inside
itself, have friends who adhere to it loyally and devotedly and employ only
those who belong to it.