HAVE A HAPPY LOVE LIFE!
The only sexual acts that are wrong are the ones that hurt or exploit another
person without his or her agreeing to it in a mature way and ones which are used
as a substitute for developing real self-esteem and independence.
There is nothing wrong with a woman having a baby and having no intention of
having a man around as long as she has plenty of male relations and friends to
befriend her baby.
It is not true that contraception makes the man see the woman as a sex object
for all agree that sex when conception is eliminated or very unlikely is loving
and moral. Women must have the same freedom as men to explore their sexuality.
It is not true that the contracepting person sees the baby as a burden for
anti-contracepting people see the baby as something to be avoided when they try
to reduce the chances of conception for nobody thinks sex is more about babies
than anything else.
It is thought that having sex is promising to care for and be with the person
you have it with forever for it is giving yourself to another. To have sex with
somebody you do not care for is to give your body but not yourself for you are
holding back your heart and that is contradictory and obviously abnormal and
demeaning. It is obvious that it is better for sex to express love of some kind.
When you give a person yourself you are certainly promising to be there for them
forever. However, you do not have to be their friend forever but you do have to
be there if they have nobody in an emergency.
Nobody must feel pressured into having casual sex. It is a sign of strength and
wisdom to say no when one isn't interested. Those who think otherwise don't
matter. The fewer sex partners anyone has the better for it is healthier. Sex
can become a substitute for love and all deserve better.
Only bigots condemn homosexuality. It is condemned on the grounds that it is
unnatural. That is based on the lie that what is natural is necessarily good and
what is unnatural is bad. It is a lie for everybody can see that nature is cruel
and we all can and should defy it when we have operations. Nature has strange
ways so it could be natural for persons to be attracted to the same sex for many
heterosexual men do not like full intercourse as much as they like other acts.
Laying down laws like such and such a sex act being unnatural is foolish and
narrow and conceited for everybody's tastes differ. When nature makes it
possible to be gay and for it to do no harm then how can it be unnatural? Even
if many homosexuals abuse their sexuality that does not make homosexuality
itself bad for it is the abuse that is bad.
It is wrong to sexually molest children and the immature even if they consent
for they are not meant for such activity and if they were loved for themselves
and not for the kind of bodies they have the person who desires them would wait.
Sex abuse is not wrong just because it may have bad results but because the
person should not be treated like a thing. We do have to treat persons as things
to avoid treating far more that way. But this condition does not occur in
sex-abuse. We should let our wrath burn fierce against child-abuse.
