Attachment and how God is no solution

and it seems nothing is - it is always going to be there

Attachment is a form of selfishness that tries to get a sense of control by latching on to something.  You make it about you and not about how the thing can benefit anybody else.

Attachment is a problem for it makes you lose sight of your own value and leads to you failing to see that material things will not bring you happiness.

Laban had a beautiful idol that he worshipped both because of its beauty and because of its sentimental value. It belonged to his grandfather. One day he came back to his tent and went to the shrine where the idol was enthroned. It was not there. Jacob had stolen the idol and melted it down. It was gone forever. Laban mourned the idol. His grief was great. he said he lost his God. His wife asked him why he mourned the idol. It occurred to him that losing the idol did not make him any more or less of a person. What he had lost was his happy feelings and his enjoyment of the idol. he realised then that the idol never mattered. It was how he felt about it that mattered. His feeling of attachment was the real idol all along. The idol was not his God. He deceived himself that it was. It was how he felt about the idol that was the real God.
He knew not that he was so attached until he lost the idol.

You are not the things that you have, the job that you have, the trappings, the virtue, the vice, the money, the success - the list is endless. You get attached to things when you forget this. You think these things comprise what you are. You are a person and will still be one when they are gone and when you cease all attachment to them.

Was Laban attached to the thought that the idol was so precious? No. Thoughts of how precious something is can lead to feelings of attachment. It was the feelings he was attached to. Attachment is an emotional thing. Can you be attached to a thought?

To try and be attached no more leaves you attached to the attempt to try. If you simply become aware of how your attachments have deceived you they will evaporate. So don't try. Just look. Just become aware. Just awaken.

If you are not attached to your youth and beauty, you will not feel any less of a person or you will not feel upset when they slip away from you. If you are not attached to your career, you will not be destroyed but will still be full of peace should your career end.

People only get attached to feelings and things because they forget these things are not permanent. When they discern realistically how things come and go and nothing lasts their attachment begins to subside.

Believe that you own what you own!
 
If you believe in God you would have to believe that your wealth is his creation and reflects his power and beauty and love. Who is richer than him if he exists? He made all things so ultimately he owns all things. He has given some of his wealth away to each one of us.
 
It is said that we do not own anything. It is said that we only use what we call possessions for a while and then somebody else will use them. If that is true, then stealing wouldn't be wrong. How could you thank someone for a gift if it isn't theirs or become yours? The concept of God implies that God owns all things and we are only users of what he gives. We are custodians of what he owns and own nothing. To think we do not own things implies that we should not seek them. Owning is a right. If we do not own our rights we own nothing and should seek nothing. The belief that there is no ownership mystically creates poverty and damages mental health.

Do not take your image of your lovability from the idea of God

Do not take your image of yourself as loveable from the idea of God. You would be using the idea as a crutch to help yourself see yourself as lovable. But why not just see it? If you need a crutch you are striving for artificial sight! So you cannot see you are lovable from the alleged love God has for you. You have to simply just see it. Self-esteem is my work and nobody else's. It is not even God's.

I must believe I am lovable. Self-esteem is seeing that even if nobody else does, including a god. I need to do good and I need to love. Then my eyes will be opened to let me see how lovable I am. I do good to make myself aware that I am good. I must recognise that there is good and good intent in all that I do even if it it is what people call evil.

We do not need a God of unconditional love for that is an entity that is saying, "I don't care if you are lovable or not. I love you." What use is that? If you are not lovable then such love is deceitful. It would mean God feels a deep appreciation for what is vile or may be vile! Again the point is, we must abandon the idea of God and the worship of God to find our self-worth.

Why would you want a God to unconditionally love you in the sense of seeing you as nothing but lovable no matter if you are lovable or not?  You want benefits from him.  What you really want is unconditional forgiveness where even if you kill you get a reward from him anyway.  He has to pretend you actually saved a life.  You want the unconditional love of God but you are not giving that back.  You only want God not for God but for how he can benefit you.  The fast way to unhappiness is to think it comes from what you can get.  Reality does not care what you want and the next financial crash will sweep your money away.  The unconditional love of God is a toxic and underhanded way of ruining people.   

In love we ask for a lot. We ask to be loved should our faces break out permanently with acne pustules the size of dinner plates and should we smell like a sewer. We ask to be loved if we were in a permanent vegetative state. We ask to be loved even if we were never born or never existed.

To ask that of a God or anybody is to declare, "I am worth nothing unless I am valued by God or others." It is a dangerous form of self-hatred. It may not look like self-hatred and the person suffering from this affliction may seem happy and confident. But it is self-hatred. It is parasitic. It is throwing away the safety that comes from appreciating yourself to make your good self-image depend on what another thinks of you. It is embracing danger.

Christians say God loves you with the greatest love possible. There is only one person who can love you that much. That person is yourself. The Christians are insulting the love you have and can have for yourself. If you agree with them, you are creating a negative affirmation.

You can't love your child if your child never existed in any sense. But you would still love yourself if you never existed. This sounds like nonsense. But we are talking about feelings of love. So ask yourself if you would still love yourself if you never existed and you would feel the love.

All revelations that say different from our soul-enhancing insights must be rejected as dangerous and false.

Religion declares certain ideas to be sacred. That is you are to believe them and never scorn them. Ideas are never sacred. Ideas are made for people and not people for ideas! To scorn religion in your heart and to make fun of it - don't however be offensive to its followers - is a positive affirmation. It stoutly declares that ultimately that it is you that matters not ideas. Religion is an idea. A group of people come together and make ideas sacred and this is religion. Religion is people coming together but it is not people. To make your religion important is error. Leave it and be your own person. Laughter is one of the best things in life - and it can only happen if you make fun of things and are irreverent and even blasphemous! The more outrageous the joke you make out of God, Jesus and religion the better! It is a fabulous cure for any religious conditioning that you may suffer from. It neutralises the power of those negative wolves dressed as lambs.

Religion is a system not people. If people remember that, they will remember that it is not personal when you stop supporting their system and leave it. Then they will honour your right to go. They cannot ask you to put a system before your own right to establish your own identity. The system is not worth more than you.

Go.

Come out of religion. Why not? It is a system. You are worth more than a system.



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