RELIGION IS A PARASITE THAT LIKES TO FEED ON FEAR OF BEREAVEMENT AND OFF THE BEREAVED
Someone we love dies. Our grief is not about how much we value the person as a
person but how we responded to them and caused ourselves to feel about them. It
is caused by human factors rather than spiritual. Nobody suffers on the basis
that God made and valued the person.
Bereavement is not complete until you find some happiness in the thought that
the person does not exist any more. They didn't exist before they were born and
that doesn't bother you. You knew them and you want to be with them that
is why their non-existence after dying bothers you. But be careful what
you wish for. And it should not be about you. Asking for them to
live on means that if you get your wish they might be damaged or barely
conscious or capable of being injured. There is a comfort in feeling you
know that they cannot be injured any more or brought
back to be hurt etc. God and religion just harm people by saying and acting
different. Just keep the good they did going by helping people in their
honour. That is the way to keep them alive.
The atheist and the Christian (you can substitute any religion of your choice
here) have to face one question in life and that is the only question that
matters. It is, "There is nothing I can do to guarantee that I will not suffer
or die. In that sense, I have to succumb to despair. I am not saying, I have no
hope. I am saying I hope for the best in all things except the one thing. So how
do I be as happy as possible in the face of the suffering and death that can
happen to me? I can try - others have managed it. Others have succeeded."
It may be as important to know what the answer is not, as it is to know what the
answer is. If so then be neutral. But we may feel that knowing that
God is not the answer is the most important thing. Neutral or being
dismissive of God in this way mean one thing. That it is clear that it is
unnecessary, prejudiced and unfair and silly to say that God's love is the
antidote to sin and evil and the sense that life is useless and not want to hear
any other answers. Moreover, God by definition is that which you cannot be
neutral about for he is supposedly the reason you exist and so being neutral is
like being a closet or confused atheist.
Christians hold that those who die estranged from God will be barred from
Heavenly Happiness forever and will suffer in Hell for all eternity. If somebody
dies without having made any sign of sorrow to God for living in sin, the Church
will tell the relatives and friends, “Don’t underestimate the grace and power of
Almighty God. God may have reached him and found this lost sheep.” In other
words, God is going to make a special effort to convert the sinner in danger of
death! How could that console people who don’t see much reason to be confident
about God working to stop paedophile priests sinning? And the Church does not
really believe its own answer for it says that we should never underestimate the
power of the human heart to disparage the ways of God and says that hearts are
good at deceiving and blinding their owners. Jesus said the Jews were confident
in their hearts that they were holy but they were not (Luke 16).
We conclude that the comfort people report from faith in God comes not from God
but from the way they distort their own perception and it comes from their
ignorance. It is a placebo and a placebo by definition should be short-term.
Religious people need their faith challenged gently and kindly. Do not argue
that it helps them therefore you must protect their faith by saying nothing that
undermines it.