POPULAR “MORALITY” EXPOSED
People say nice things about each other. We feel that many of these things are
hypocritical. Let us examine this issue. What you read may make you more cynical
but it will certainly help you be more cynical about the God belief and its
followers.
THE THINGS THEY SAY
The following sayings are condemned as evil but are only evil if free will is
true. But still they show the hypocrisy and saccharine selfishness that is rife
in the Church and society. For religion to be so hypocritical is bad enough but
when they invent a perfect God to endure all this hypocrisy and to endure it
being offered up to him it is far worse. The God belief makes hypocrites worse
not better.
"You may need to feed the serial killer to stop him dying in agony. Some will say it does not matter at this point what he has done."
But surely that is saying it does not matter about the
people he killed? In fact what did always matters but this thing is not about
it. The proper attitude is that it does matter but this is another subject and
starving him is not going to help justice take its course.
"A: John has treated me really badly and is slagging me off everywhere.
I know he is looking at porn while working. Should I tell the boss? B: No
because nobody likes or trusts a snitch."
Calling you a snitch implies that you are a bad person just for telling. It is
about the telling. It is not about you becoming untrustworthy. It is not about
you becoming disliked because that might not necessarily happen or happen to any
serious extent. It is really saying people should be allowed to do all the evil
they wish and nobody should tell on them.
To say that you must do x because people will dislike you if you don't, is
really urging you not to be your own person and to urge you to refuse to allow
yourself to be happy should you be unpopular.
It is also urging you to mistrust others by accusing them of being unable to
like you and trust you at all if you snitch.
People are liked for doing the occasional mischievous thing.
People can be snitches and still liked.
Plus if you snitch on John, it is he who can't trust you. It has nothing to do
with anybody else. You like them and won't hurt them. They can't hurt you like
John can so they have nothing to fear.
The moral is that the advice is about acting good but not about being good. It
makes an actor of you. It makes a fake of you.
"Okay she wants to put her children up for adoption because she wants to
travel the world. But that is her choice."
Saying it is her choice means you don't care what she
does to her children. You are glad it is her choice for you are glad you don't
have to help. You can tell yourself it is her not you. Want proof?
Think of when you say, "Okay, she wants to have her wedding in winter time. It
is her choice". You are clearly saying the same thing but in a different
context.
Saying it is her choice is a means of protecting yourself from feeling bad about
the terrible things people can do.
Some say they don't want to accuse her of abusing her freedom because accusing
her of abusing her freedom is accusing her of self-abuse. And the person who
abuses themselves soon abuses others. Others are affected by what you do whether
you like it or not so self-abuse is abusing others. But if she is abusing her
freedom then why not say so? Why act as if you want to make excuses?
"Two wrongs don't make a right"
This sounds reasonable but it is actually very silly. If I hit person X and X
hits me back X is not as bad as me for I proved to X that I deserved it. Two
wrongs don't make a right slanders X by making out he is as bad as me!
If I don't take what the law has coming to me I will never learn my lesson.
You can learn your lesson without being punished. Many people argue that you
should let the law catch up with a bad person to teach them a lesson. They are
hiding their vindictiveness under a platitude. Punishment is not about teaching
you what is right and wrong but about paying you back for doing wrong. It is
about making sure you don't get the same benefits whether you do right or wrong.
"There is no thanks in x. But don't let that stop you doing good things
for him."
Doing good for an ingrate is not good for you or them. The good you do for them
is really a source of pain for them. Go and do good for people who will
appreciate it. Kindness towards ingrates is a waste and is not kindness at all.
"I couldn't steal or sleep with x's husband. What kind of person would
do that?"
This is judging anybody that does just that. It is telling you that you are bad
news if you steal or sleep with this man. It is admission that when you say
somebody sins or does wrong that your criticism is against the person and is
personal.
People who say things like in the bullet point often turn around and start
bleating meaningless platitudes such as, "I am a sinner myself so I do not judge
the sinner but the sin". This is self-deceit. They say it is wrong to get
personal but they are personal. They practice the hypocrisy that is often worse
than what the sinner is doing and which is more dangerous.
"Be the bigger person and say hello to John though you have fallen out
with one another."
In other words, my claim that all people are equally good is hypocrisy. I am
telling you I will consider you better than John if you say hello. I expect John
to be silly enough to be impressed at you trying to be better than him. Also,
there is a lot more to you than your saying hello to John. There is a lot more
to John too. What gives me the right to declare you the bigger person then?
"Why don't you talk to Father Bob about it? He won't judge you. He
welcomes people no matter how badly they have behaved."
It is impossible for him not to judge. Judge means to regard an action as bad
and to say the person should be punished and if punishment is not possible then
its a pity. He will be judging in his mind though he may not say anything. Some
of us seem not to mind people judging us as long as they hide it or lie to us
pretending that they don't judge. That is another human irrationality. Why do we
hate the whole world knowing our private business and judging it when we don't
seem to mind a few knowing it? If one or two know then why not let all know? The
reason is that we can live with a few judging us to our faces or in the
secretive way Father Bob goes about it. If too many people know our business we
feel they judge us.
"No person is better than another."
This saying is pure hypocrisy and a lie. Suppose John is
wiser than Eve. You may say that Eve is as good as him but in different ways.
She may not be as wise but she is kinder.
The view that they are equally good makes no sense if wisdom is better than
kindness. It is judgmental. What if a person comes along who is not equal to
others in anything?
What use does it do to tell a prisoner he is equal to the good time girl up the
road when he is in jail for life?
"Do you think that family in your neighbourhood is a threat to it? Reply
- "No comment."
No comment clearly means yes. If the person said why the family is a threat and
what it might do at least we would know it may not do worse than what the person
says. No comment lets us think what we want
"If he takes that attitude then he is not worth bothering about. If he
doesn't trust you after all this time, then you are doing yourself a favour by
dumping him".
That implies that people are only worth knowing if they are very decent. It is
very negative. It doesn't take account of the fact that people cannot be all
bad. People tell wives or husbands for example that the spouse that hit them is
not worth worrying about for hitting them. This is to console the victim.
Christians ought to see how it tries to encourage an unloving attitude to
comfort. If we listened to that faith and practiced it consistently we would
soon be spreading misery.
"I have enough troubles of my own without worrying about the problems of
others."
Contradicts the view that God comes first and that others
come before you. It is a sin to be absorbed in your own problems. It shows the
fundamental nastiness of encouraging faith in God for it gives troubled people a
God to worry about!
It is a thoroughly secular and humanistic point of view. It shows that religion
is not that important.
If morality comes first, and if having others love God comes first, then it is
clear that you should worry about how much the old man across the road loves God
and not be worried about how you are going to have everything ready on time for
your birthday party.
"I would love to look after my mother if she got sick or was dying."
That is just a boast even if it is true. If everything we do is based on
self-interest then you are saying it is your self interest to help your mother -
so your compassion is really fake. It is not about you helping her but about you
helping yourself with your bad feelings in relation to her suffering. If you do
it for her sake and not yours then you won't love it. As long as you love doing
it for her and not you you are saying that people should not care about their
own rights and if you believe that then you don't have much honour for her and
your helping her is done with a bad attitude. It is not about helping her then.
Everything we do could be about our self-interest because even if we do
something for another and seek nothing back we are getting back the pleasure of
being so altruistic. Believers in altruism say we are being altruistic because
we don't look for the happiness - it comes from a side-effect of doing good. If
that is true then there is a 50/50 chance that we are being altruistic or
non-altruistic. What should be the default position then? Considering how much
time we spend thinking of ourselves and how we wouldn't suffer all our lives to
spare other people and how we want the side-effect of happiness the default
position is that we assume no act is altruistic. Also we want the side-effect of
happiness. Not thinking of the happiness in order to be indirectly happy is not
altruism but self-interest. We know that the more we want to be happy the more
we annoy ourselves and drive it away but if we just forget about the desire then
we get the happiness.
"Don't become a prostitute. It is very dangerous. You could get raped or
beaten up."
This contradicts the notion that we should think positive and trust and
encourage people to work to eliminate risk. Christians urge people to convert to
Christianity even in dangerous Islamic countries and yet they would say the
above to a woman contemplating prostitution. It makes them look caring and
concerned. If they were more honest and were saying, "Our disdain for
prostitution isn't about you, but just against the law of Christ that a woman
should never prostitute herself - even to a client she knows would never hurt
her" the woman would see their true colours. They would have no problem with a
wife selling her body to her husband even if he is psycho rapist brute.
The more honest Christians will say that prostitution is not bad because of the
results but bad in itself and that it only has bad results because it is bad.
This sneaks in the idea, "If you get beaten up lady you brought it on yourself!"
The prostitute does not ask for or make any man beat her up or rape her. It is
not the prostitution that is to blame.
God is good - according to the Christian faith. We are expected to trust God. It
is true that he can let prostitutes get raped and beaten up. But what if he
changes? Are we not insulting him then? Would a doctor who made mistakes in the
past be respected if people warned his patients that his treatments might go
wrong? It insults God.
"I don't want to argue any more for life is too short".
Translation: If I could get over the upset fast and if my life were longer, I
would argue. I want to but sadly cannot.
"I wish I could help you. But I can't tell you what you need to know. I
have to observe confidentiality."
"Wish I could break this confidentiality but I can't" is the translation.
Perhaps it only means that he wishes it was not confidential and he could tell
it? But it is confidential for it is bad to tell it. Does he mean he wishes it were
good to tell it so it wouldn't be confidential any more? No. The context is not
about what ifs. It is about the reality. The reality is that he will not tell
and he is claiming he regrets that is the reality. He is saying he would like to
break the confidentiality but cannot.
Christians praise the man who says the words above though it contradicts their
doctrine that one should not desire to do evil. They condemn those who do good
with reluctance. Where is the condemnation for this man? Their morality is based
on lies and brainwashing. But that basis easily backfires and people end up
swallowing lies opposed to the Church's lies.