SELF-ESTEEM INDULGENCES
Self-esteem is about accepting yourself as good as you are. The self-esteem
method means instead of always trying to feel better about yourself you go and
do good and the feelings will come. It takes great courage and self-esteem to
use that method and trust yourself with it.
INSPIRATIONS-
You can have poor self-esteem and still achieve great things. But they are not
great for you if you do not have the self-esteem to enjoy them.
If you truly love and have confidence in yourself, you will not wilfully and
maliciously or callously hurt others. You will have the confidence to believe
that if you embrace the happiness and peace that comes from loving others then
your life will be good. Hurting people to get what you want is telling yourself
that you are going to inspire people to start working against what you want.
That isn't the way you behave if you really want it. If you do want it then you
will get it through kindness to others and love for them.
Try to be the very best you can be. But you alone must decide what this is to be
and where the benchmark is. For some people for example, being a good nurse who
occasionally forgets to do things is perfection. That's fine. Just be realistic.
Then you will be able to be the best in your own eyes and not second-best.
Treat every day as special and as if it matters immensely. Dress up s if you are
going somewhere important for you always are. Even if you go to dump something
in your rubbish bin you are still doing something important.
It is when you think of other people and help them that you do the most loving
thing for yourself. You will enjoy your bath more if you think you are doing it
so that you will smell nice for other people. Whoever lives and thinks this way
will program their lives to deliver blessing after blessing. They will not go
without their reward. But you are celebrating yourself with and for others.
Having the bath for others to enjoy you is really a different way of enjoying
and pleasing yourself. It is not altruistic.
The more I trust myself the more I will trust others. True self-esteem does not
result in anti-social activity such as heavy drinking or stealing. If I steal I
am saying others should steal from me. I am programming myself to engage in
disorder and to damage myself. What I call bad or evil is disorder. If I create
disorder I create what can destroy me.
Cosmetic surgery will never improve your sense of self-worth. However, you can
use it to do that. So it is really you not the surgery that gives you the
self-worth. If you look after the outside, the spirit gets happier and has a
healthier outlook.
Correct self-love makes me sociable and approachable!
If I am an island (a sociable island is still an island), I fail to honour
myself and to work for the honour that is due to me simply because I cannot be
happy for too long if I am on my own.
Apathy in the sense that we are going to look at it is not caring about doing
good in the world or checking evil where possible. It is an attack on yourself.
Do not even think about human sin or human evil. Everybody could pick out the
three best compliments they got in their life. Those will be the compliments
that cause a warm feeling. Use them like mantras.
To love myself is not to distract myself from working for the wellbeing of
others. If I value myself properly, others benefit and I am a joy to them. To
value my joy with others is to value myself. I can find joy in all people.
If I love myself I feel good. And if I feel good I am a better help to others.
The better I am at turning my problems into challenges to be met, the more I
love myself and the more time and energy I have to help others. Loving myself
sets me free.
Prayer is corrupting for it is not needed and a self-esteem exercise is far
better. To say that prayer is better is to say that self-esteem is not
important. Nevertheless the Church regards prayer as totally indispensable for
salvation.
If the Church were really inspired by God it would be adept at inducing
self-esteem in its followers. The gospel doctrine would be largely about the
wisdom that produces self-esteem and the Bible would be written similar to
Louise Hay’s books. It is not so either the Bible and the Church are bunkum or
God wants you to hate your own guts.
OCCULT SELF-ESTEEM
When a person treats self-esteem as a magical force that leads to reinforced
self-esteem that is really occultism using the beauty of self-esteem for
superstitious ends. What we propose is nothing magical. Self-esteem realises
that it can be challenged and refuses to use placebo belief magic as a shield.
True self-esteem embraces courage and courage means keeping your eyes on
reality.
FINALLY
No objection to the primacy of self-esteem succeeds. To choose anything else is
just silly. It is also an inalienable right and the foundation of all rights.
Self-esteem cannot be grown overnight. The following habits are necessary:
Be more aware of what is happening around you. This builds up confidence.
Accept yourself as you are and accept what you have done in the past and remind
yourself how you have learned.
Take responsibility and do not blame others or life.
Act and do not be passive.
Accept your right to assert yourself and avoid the pitfalls of self-suppression.
Act with purpose in mind. Have a plan and have the confidence to work out a good
fall-back plan.
No one else determines your worth. Only you decide that and you decide it by
taking a journey.
No one else can dictate what you deserve. Only you can read you.
Other people’s reactions, responses and feelings are not your responsibility.
You can't do anything to control those things.
The opinion somebody has of you may be right but they don't have it because they
know for sure. They just happen to hit the bullseye so they cannot be as sure as
they might say they are.
All these things suggest that the work is yours and nobody else's and not even
God's.