Loving your neighbour as yourself is bad news because:
Jesus Christ commanded that we must love our neighbour as ourselves.
He said that it was secondary in importance to the command that we must dedicate
wholly to God - no reserving or holding back. You are to love your neighbour for
the sake of God. Such was the underlying contempt he had for people, despite the
fact that we are to love people not for them but for God, it is still secondary in
importance!
He does not command you to love yourself but merely notes that you ALREADY love
yourself. He commands you to love your neighbour as you already love yourself.
As for the loving yourself he does not say if it is good or bad. The commandment
being about your neighbour not you obviously sees self-love as bad or a
necessary evil.
Love of God and love of neighbour as oneself or even less do not necessarily go
together for what if you were in a universe where there was nobody to love only
God? If they go together that means that loving your brother and sister is a
response to God's love for his creation. It is letting God love them through
you. It is really about God not them.
Christians do not pay much attention to love your neighbour as yourself in
practice. For example, if Charlie forgives unrepentant James for beating him up
without mercy and refuses to press charges though it is a good option and James
needs a lesson, the Christians praise Charlie. They have no concern for Charlie
being so stupid - he is letting James getting away with it and maybe somebody
else will now get hurt at James' hands. Another example, is how people may say
that I can annoy my neighbours by making a lot of unnecessary noise for it is my
house. Another example is how you marry which means you are going to treat one
neighbour as yourself and the others as secondary. The rule fails to help with
issues like, "Should I kill myself to provide my organs so that five people will
survive?", "Should I have an abortion to save my health?", "Should I blackmail
Ann not to use the birth control pills for they will kill the human persons she
conceives or should I replace the pills with tic tacs?", "Should we enable cars
to travel only at 40 kph max to save lives ended on the roads when life matters
more than convenience?", "Should smokers be put to the back of the list when
looking for hospital treatment to let those who are sick though they do not
abuse themselves be looked after first?" and, "Should I shoot my wife for
working at an abortion clinic and killing all those unborn babies?" Which of
these is loving others as much as myself? Hundreds of issues could be added to
the list. It simply does not help when it comes to major issues. It is not
really about helping but about getting a warm self-righteous glow. People feel
happy when they imagine how they love their neighbour so much as themselves.
If you love your neighbour in the same way as you love yourself, you will react
in hate towards anybody who hurts your neighbour just as you would if they hurt
you. Love risks leading to hate and often does. Jesus was full of passive
aggression so maybe that was the reason why he said, "Love your neighbour as
yourself" instead of sensibly saying, "Do nothing to deliberately injure
another." Christians typically say he only meant that we do nothing to hurt
others. But my refusing to hurt John does not mean I love him. Jesus commanded
us to love God alone so he meant we are to love what we see of God in our
neighbours. This is not really loving the neighbours or valuing them but using
them as a means of honouring God. If you love your neighbour as yourself you
will react in hate and anger to an attack on your neighbour the way you would an
attack on yourself. If you treat your neighbour as God the hate and anger will
be even worse for you are to love God totally and more than yourself.
Love your neighbour as yourself warms the heart which is why it rings true. But
its beauty is based on a misperception.
Like Jesus, the Christians like to sound as if they are speaking wisdom while
they are saying nothing helpful at all. Christians claim the command to make
themselves look good but they do not use it as a measuring stick for their
lives. They ignore it and then instigate hatred against anybody who deplores it
or questions it. If disobeying it doesn't do them much harm then why should
scoffers of the commandment be hounded and criticised?
You cannot love your neighbour as yourself and there is nothing to be ashamed of
for that is the way we are. We get by and have a good enough life without people
loving us as they love themselves. The command however seeks to make you feel
awful about being a normal person and makes you feel never good enough. That is
why those who try to practice it end up feeling that they should love others and
not themselves and when they fail they end up hating everybody and rationalising
that they cannot help the hate so it is not a sin.
Love your neighbour as yourself was a clever ruse by the Church to put people
down and to keep them coming to the Church for elusive or temporary comfort from
the sacraments and the prayers. You cannot love yourself if you try to love
others as yourself for it burdens yourself. In fact Jesus' commandment may have
been a poetic way of saying love others and not yourself. It could be like one
of his parables and ironies.
Everything you do you do it for yourself even when you hate doing it for you
want to do it more than not want to. So when you do good for another person it
is not because you value them. You value the feelings that make you help them.
You can’t do good for another person unless it is going to please yourself. I
mean when you like something you mean you find your own fulfilment in it. Liking
means finding satisfaction so when you like a person you are not valuing that
person but how they make you feel. So you love yourself in the sense that you
value yourself alone but you love your neighbour in the sense that you like your
neighbour. Love is liking. But you do not value your neighbour as yourself for
you cannot and you do not like your neighbour as yourself either.
You are called selfish or too self-loving when you are ungrateful for that will
harm yourself which is a strange kind of selfishness. Real selfishness is what
is best for yourself and for others. Even when we act as if we are concerned for
others and not ourselves we are concerned just for ourselves. Everything you do
is done only for self-love. When you give a stranger $100 it is hard to see the
self-love in that. But you didn’t do it for him but because you wanted to do it
for him. Focus on the words you wanted. It was for you not him. Just because you
gave it and he benefited doesn’t mean you did it for him as far as motive is
concerned.
When you help a sick stranger it is because you, you believe in helping and want
to believe in it and not for them. It cannot be for any other reason. It is not
the stranger you value but yourself. You value yourself but in the broad sense
of love - which is helping others - you do love them which is not what the
commandment means. You are still not treating them as another you. You are
helping them for yourself even if it is just to satisfy the need to help others.
This need is programmed into us. We did not make it.
People want you to help them because you like to and not because you feel you
ought to. We want each other to practice this kind of self-centredness.
You should not love your neighbour as yourself but love yourself through your
neighbour for there is no need to demean yourself by loving your neighbour as
yourself. This means enjoying seeing others happy. It does not mean you do evil
but it means you live the same way as a person who says you must love your
neighbour as yourself does but the only difference will be is that you have the
honesty not to pretend you are being unselfish.
Love your neighbour as yourself is hypocrisy. Religion is founded on this
insincerity. All who preach religion are behind the evil that the people who
listen to them do because they create an evil system that can’t make them better
people though they say it can. Good happens in spite of faith and not because of
it. If you give a psychopath a pill that won’t help him or that shouldn’t then
you are as much the cause of any crime he commits as he is even though you
didn’t tell him to commit it. And so it is with religions useless and futile
therapies for unhappiness and sin. Religion is too silly for people not to
notice and so it is undoubtedly a wilful con.
The fact that God says in the Bible he commanded love of neighbour as oneself
through Moses and Jesus Christ is enough to condemn the commandment. Say the
rule is right. How could God command what should command itself (assuming love
should be commanded at all)? I mean if it is good then he has no need to command
it at all but just to draw our attention to it and its rightness. A commanding
God means one thing: that human beings are dirt and have no right to expect any
proper treatment from God and that they should be dominated by an interfering
divine dictator and by religious leaders who represent him. Religion means war
and that people should not think for themselves and it shows that religion
dislikes people and is two-faced when it seems friendly for if you liked people
you would trust them and not be trying to give them a God who issues orders to
keep them in line.
Jesus who made this law of so-called love of neighbour as oneself said it was
related to and like the command to love God with all your heart and so
Christianity has always taught that the two go together. In other words, the
stronger your faith in God the more you love your neighbour. This accuses
doubters and atheists of being trouble and of being undesirable people. It
opposes the right to have and express your own opinion. It is
pro-discrimination.
Loving as yourself implies that if you have one neighbour you should share half
your love for you and half for the neighbour so it must be a sin to treat
yourself, which is loving only yourself, for you must involve him. Therefore the
more people you have to serve the less you should serve yourself and you should
only serve yourself like go to the doctor for medical help when you are ill so
that you can help others better. The more neighbours you serve the better so the
commandment soon puts the loving yourself totally off the picture. Most people
take love your neighbour as yourself to mean you care for your neighbour’s
feeling as much as your own. But what if the neighbour has a mental illness that
makes him need you as a slave and which will afflict him horribly if you don’t
comply with his every wish? Most people will say you should still have your own
life but it shows the duplicity and fake charm of the love neighbour as yourself
doctrine.
Love your neighbour as yourself in practice means you love your neighbour more
than yourself because since you cannot judge others like you judge yourself it
means you can let them manipulate you for to treat them fairly means you have to
be more trusting of them than you are of yourself.
Some people believe that casting spells for their neighbours is loving them as
themselves! You can be sure that Jesus would disagree with this so what he meant
by loving your neighbour was treating your neighbour as Jesus would treat her.
That is, he wants neighbours treated according to his rules so rather than
respecting your neighbour you end up imposing your faith system on their lives.
It is love to prevent your neighbour having access to heretical books for
somebody has to be displeased in cases of conflict and Jesus who comes first
will be unhappy if you don’t do it his way as will his Church be. Jesus told the
unfortunate ordinary people he preached to that if their Roman persecutors
forced them to carry their packs one mile for them to generously carry it a
second mile (Matthew 5:41). To be so kind to hardened killers who hate you and
your people and who will laugh at you is certainly not loving yourself as much
as them. You could have found better things to do, like helping decent people,
than go an extra mile. Jesus would have told you to do what they ask but no more
but to be pleasant if he had really believed in love neighbour as yourself.
Loving your neighbour as yourself is impossible for you love the perception you
have created of your neighbour as yourself not your neighbour. Jesus was
commanding the impossible to break us down. He was commanding that we blind
ourselves just because he said so. The commandment is pro-deception and a load
of whitewash. Jesus created a discouraging and impossible standard of
“morality”. Clearly it was not meant to work!
You cannot love your neighbour unless you know your
neighbour. If you cannot love your neighbour until you know something about them
that is conditional love. Religion lies that it cares unconditionally. The
reality is different religions get in the way of people knowing each other
properly.
To love your neighbour as yourself you would have to love the sinner and hate
the sin – and we are supposed to be all sinners. But you cannot do this any more
than you can love your mind and hate the life that causes it. To say John’s
painting is bad is to say John is a bad artist. So you cannot separate the sin
from the sinner and it is a lie to say you can. The person who says you have
done wrong is saying you are bad as a person and that is that and they wouldn’t
be saying it unless they thought you did it deliberately. You can't hate anybody
unless you feel there is value in them - you cannot hate without loving. Loving
the sinner and hating the sinner is meaningless when the definition of hate is
feeling a strong and perhaps vindictive dislike for somebody part of you cares
about. If you separate the sinner from the sin by implication you are separating
the person from the good they do as well. To insult a person by pretending their
sin is not part of them and they are good people because the sin has nothing to
do with them is also to insult their good deeds. Sin is not an act - it is evil
character evil people. You are your sin - the sinful act only shows what you are
like. The love sinner and hate sin crap only results in people pretending they
don't hate and in that sense it encourages hate for people like to pretend they
are kinder than what they really are. Hate that is disguised is worse than hate
that is let out. Repression destroys the hater and the hated far more than
outright hatred does.
Loving your neighbour as yourself is just a Christian scam for glory, money,
influence and power.